Prior to your 18th birthday:
Auto-immune disorder whereby one's immune system attacks internal organs. Melanie speaks about how her home was out of order / too much stress increases symptoms
Things Melanie did to get through the challenges:
If you could do anything..... and know that you would not fail..... what would YOU CHOOSE?
If you could choose who you wish to be who would you choose to be?
From victimhood to empowerment....... what would that take?
What can you DO or BE to change Your life?
To recover full awareness of a past distressful / traumatic incident by gently looking at the incident several times. Each viewing of the incident brings more awareness while releasing any unwanted thoughts and feelings and emotions.... until the incident is neutral.
To confront..... or to not confront.... that is the choice!
VIEWING involves addressing an issue that was not fully resolved. When we have an experience that is too painful for too overwhelming at the time, our natural defence system protects us by storing the memory fully or partially in a part of our mind (the subconscious) that is not as accessible as our conscious mind (active memory).
The painful memory may not be available in active memory, yet the effects can continue to affect us. The energy required for the memory to be suppressed can contribute to fatigue, irritability, lack of alertness and clarity and an inability to remain fully present.
In an attempt to avoid situations that "trigger" the memory of unresolved distressing events, a person can become limited in living to one's full potential!
SYMPTOMS OF UNRESOLVED TRAUMA
RESOLUTION versus MANAGEMENT
Resolving an incident has a person gently confront and view, several times, a distressful incident until the person is aware of all the details and there are no unwanted emotions or feelings or negative beliefs attached to the incident; the incident becomes neutral.
Managing an incident is coping with the symptoms of unresolved material because one avoids looking at pieces or all of an incident
BENEFITS OF ADDRESSING TRAUMA USING TIR (Traumatic Incident Reduction)
A systematic approach to understanding the universals of human experience. It is the study of the person, their abilities, and their experience, as seen from their point of view, not from an external viewpoint.
An application of philosophical principles to something practical in helping people get over their difficulties, including trauma.
TRAUMA is the relationship between something that happens in a person's life AND their reaction to that experience, something that is painful and difficult to confront.
If not confronted and resolved, the information can be repressed and the negative effects continue to affect the person.
The paradox is deliberately not being aware of something one is aware of: keeping it psychologically close by so as to remember where NOT to look
Those suffering from chronic pain often have mental health disorders which include anxiety & depression
"Those who do not have power over the story that dominates their lives, power to retell it, to rethink it, deconstruct it, joke about it, and change it as times change, truly are powerless."
GRIEF is one's internal experience: sadness, despair, anger, guilt etc.
MOURNING is one's external act of grieving: writing a letter, journalling (helps process emotion..... in motion), visiting a gravestone, attending a funeral
How do you support a grieving friend? Showing up...... Not speaking up!
Grieving & Mourning will empower you to get you through the sense of powerlessness, helplessness & hopelessness
Be deliberate in your act of mourning:
1. Accept the reality of the loss: to grieve and to mourn.
Be truthful about all the emotions that you experience
2. Enter fully into the loss: tolerate the pain & give yourself permission to feel bad
3. Commemorate the deceased: find ways to convert memories of the loved one while alive (collage)
4. Develop a new identity: move from 'togetherness' to 'aloneness'
5. Contemplate the mystery of life after loss: reflect on sense of mortality
6. Garner support: don't want to live alone? then why grieve alone! Invite people to support you
7. Discard any grief recovery timetable: avoiding grieving prolongs grieving!
Honouring your pain = honouring your loved one
Within the perspective of mental/emotional wellness, Acupuncture is a process that moves the Qi (chee) through the body. Qi is energy that enters the body by air to the lungs which gets transported throughout the body via the blood to break up stagnant chemistry that can cause health issues. This movement of energy provides an opportunity for new perspective / point of view. A new perspective can lead to different behaviours. Different behaviours can lead to different chemistry which creates a different body outcome!
How amazing are our bodies? Thank you body!
Liver Organ System: eyes, ligaments, flanks, liver organ, gall bladder, thyroid +
Heart Organ System:
Spleen Organ System: spleen, stomach, pancreas, pensiveness (thinking too much / worry)
Lungs Organ System:
Kidney Organ System:
Bladder Organ System: insecurity, prolapsed organ, incontinence,
Changing your point of view / perspective changes the energy which changes the chemistry with changes your immune function: it is healing from the inside ~ out!
Pain, trauma, stress, injury.... all change chemicals in your body which affect emotions: if you don't EXpress it.... you Depress it ~ In your body! The key is to move through your emotions.
The chemistry in the body from the emotion is what motivates your muscles to move through space and take action.
Anger is the chemical / the emotion to enforce our boundaries (strike a threat for example)
Rage is when you turn on every muscle in your body and EXpress those chemicals. If you are in a wheelchair - EXpress rage!
Rage will get you out of the wheelchair. Love will keep you out of the wheelchair.
"Your environment shapes your character"
When eating, do not read, work or watch TV: your body doesn't have enough blood to generate digestion and mental processing and physical movement simultaneously. If your energy is being used for physical or mental activity then your body has less energy for proper digestion
Qi: energy in the blood
Shen: compilations of your personality
Jing: what you inherit from your parents (usually runs out in your 40s)
When your body produces anti-bodies, designed to fight off germs and disease, yet attacks your own body tissue instead! This causes inflammation... which puts a lot of stress on the body.
Some medications, some environmental toxins, certain chemicals, some bacteria, viral infections.... even a stressful / traumatic childhood! When the body is unable to eradicate the effects of these..... your body can develop auto immune disorder!
Yup! During childhood children are developing psychologically, emotionally, physically, physiologically. These systems are not yet mature so the stress can get imprinted in the child's immune system.... which continues to develop into adulthood.... with programming from childhood. The environment can influence gene expression; if the environment is traumatic / abusive / stressful / neglectful..... then the body can store this. The body will "produce" that which is programmed!
Dr. Amy Myers writes an excellent book called "The Auto Immune Solution".
Asocial is when you avoid social interaction and/or you are inconsiderate or hostile to others
Anti-social is when you are unfriendly, withdrawn, avoidant, not wiling to communicate with others, standoffish, use disruptive and/or distasteful behaviour to drive others away
Do you have difficulty wanting to have eye contact with people or purposely ignoring their attempts to communicate with you?
Do you find that you can hear what people say yet you have difficulty getting their point? Or you respond in a way that doesn't pertain to what they are saying?
Do you often not respond to what people say because you don't really understand what they are saying?
Do you find that you have very little facial expression OR too exaggerated facial responses?
Are you reactive? Get defensive often?
Or do you feel numb?
Do you find that your humour comes out in weird ways because you don't know how to handle certain situations?
Do you laugh when something isn't actually funny OR don't laugh when something IS funny?
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